Are you actually SORRY?

Are you actually SORRY?
We do this all the time: 
Sorry I was late. 
I forgot to clean up. 
Sorry for the inconvenience, but... 
I forgot to do that for you, but...
 
But are you really?? 
Are you actually "sorry" or is it actually an excuse for ranking other things as a higher priority? 
Did you "forget" or is it actually an excuse for ranking other things as a higher priority?
 
OUCH. 😬 

Maybe you were late because the kids had an accident and you needed to deal with it, or you wanted to put on make up so you could enjoy the experience more. That's ok; but are you "sorry" you are late? Are you sorry for doing those things? If so, say it. If not; then don't. 
Maybe you didn't advertise your course because you were scared people just might sign up! Or that none would. Maybe you didn't call that prospect because you were scared of their response to your call.
 
That's ok; but did you "forget" to do those tasks? Or did you just NOT do them? If so, acknowledge it. If not, then don't use 'forgot'.
 
Both 'forgot' and 'sorry' are not excuses; they are words that have other meanings but are used so often to excuse behaviour that is far from their intended use. 

If you are genuinely sorry for something that you did/didn't do; then say so and ask for forgiveness. 
If not; then use a different phrase, ie. "Thank you for waiting for me."
 
If you genuinely forgot about something; then say so, acknowledge the fact & correct it if possible or own the consequences. 
If not; then it's an opportunity to look into the WHY of the inaction/action and look deeper into the issue. You may just find it's a recurring one... 
 
Our words are powerful and our language, to both others and ourselves, has a huge impact on our success, and life in general. 

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The moment I was speechless... but maybe not for the same reason you think...

The moment I was speechless... but maybe not for the same reason you think...
Yesterday I received the first printed copy of published book. It had the new book smell and all! The REAL DEAL. It was a LONG wait when I got the text that they were to be delivered last Thursday... and they didn't come. Friday came & went too... Then last night (Monday) I went to water the garden and there was a package on the veranda. I took a deep breath and opened the parcel.

You know when you read the “about the Author” paragraph and it feels like you know that person just a little bit more? It's inside the front cover... and it's about me!

It has that official ISBN barcode, meaning you can search my book by that number and it’s in the official register of books. It’s really there.

And my husband, who mutually agreed not to look at any scripts, proofs or scribbles till now (so that our marriage remained intact throughout the process) read the first chapter and LOVED it. “It’s so easy to read, and it sound just like you!” (Well, I hope so! Ha ha)

I was speechless. Do you know why? 
 
Because the first thing I noticed was the artwork of the spine was about 2-3mm too wide, so the text of the back cover got shifted over very VERY close to the edge. If you get a magnifying glass, part of the B in Business just may have got cut off.

That’s how critical I was. I just noticed the flaws. One of the images was not vertically centred… And with a quick flick I made a mental check of all the little things that needed improvement.

Was that really centred? (I’d need a ruler to check tbh)

Are the quotes all the exact same size?

Are all the bullet point tabs at the same indent…? (again, ruler needed… right??)
 
Do you notice something about ALL those things?? None of them, not ONE of them have to do with the actual content. Those thoughts are coming straight from Perfectionism, and are not needed nor helpful.

Those people who are reading my book to help them with their business are not going to care if the diagram is not vertically centred. Either they won’t notice OR they will see that a something helpful does not need  to be perfect; that they can still get valuable information out of a non-vertically-centred picture.

“Whether [your product] is absolutely perfect the first time or not; your customers need your product.”  
 ~ Little Ideas, Big Business

The first edition will not be perfect. But I’d rather it be out there helping others to follow their purpose, start creating their business and challenging their roadblocks so they can move forward.

This book is going to change lives. Period. It was written to be read, shared and acted on. Not to be hidden away in a random folder on my computer till I was 100% sure it was perfect. Because quite frankly; I am SURE that I could always add/change things.

And that’s not going to serve anyone.

Cos seriously; what’s the point of having valuable ideas if you aren’t going to share them with the world?
 
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Group coaching on Little Ideas, Big Business is available now.    

Be still and know that I am NOT God...

Be still and know that I am NOT God...
Be still and know that I am God. Ps 46:10

I've heard & read that verse so many times. And tonight, as I was coming out for some late-night, kid-free shopping, that verse popped into my head.

Sometimes our thoughts are all messy & we need time to sort them. And the only time that we have is when we are still; when we're not hustling and bustling in the busy-ness (business) of life.

Today, before I drove out shopping, it was a bit crazy. Let's just say we’ve got a few tired, stressed people in the house at the moment and emotions were high running through the whole family.

I needed some time out. And so I went to my place where I usually get some alone time; the garden. Though tonight I didn't feel like gardening much; I just wanted to sit, be still and be alone.

Not long after my youngest daughter came out. She came over to me; I was sitting on the edge of the veranda, leaning against the green wheelie bin full of weeds. She was silent for a moment and then said softly & with some concern, “Mummy; you look very lonely.”

“I'm just having some alone time.” (That’s our way of saying that we need a bit of space in our family).

“Mummy. Do you mind if I sit here with you, so you're not lonely & share your alone time?”

Now, let’s be honest, usually I’m having alone time to be a little further away from my kids (love them to bits, but I’m sure many mums out there can attest to how good some time apart is!)
Usually I would say no. I quite enjoy my alone time… alone.

Today though, she understood that I was wanting to sit quietly and to have rest. So she sat with me and started telling me stories. I watched her imagination run wild with a stick she had found weeks ago at the river and had become her prized possession (when she could find it! Lol). It was really a purple FLAME SWORD in disguise; when you press the button, it lights up purple flames go everywhere. I love hearing the impossible become plausible!

And so she said on my lap and I gave her a cuddle as the sun was just starting to set. We were still.
We didn't have to go anywhere, we weren't running or dancing or chasing anyone.
We were just sitting and watching the world go by; the peach tree with fruit almost ready to pick, the plum tree and the apple trees with green little fruit starting to show and the rest of street too far away to care about. And we could hear the birds winding down for the day too.
 
And so as I was driving to my shopping, with the girls tucked in bed, I was reflecting on the day.
Be still and know that I am God.

Then it hit me. I am NOT God. I don't need to know everything, do everything, be everything. It's not my responsibility. Everything is not my responsibility.
My responsibility is to live out my purpose on this world as a “mere mortal”.
My responsibility is to do what God has given me to do: not to do what He is supposed to do.
OR what someone else's supposed to do, because that then leaves my purpose vacant & unfulfilled. I'm here to do what I was put on this earth to do: to help others, to serve others and to be the best version of me that I can be. (That means we need to keep learning: never stop learning!)

I need to ensure that what I am doing is MY path. I'm not walking down someone else’s path; I’m not dragging others onto mine. And going in the direction that I'm designed to go in; not the direction someone else's told me I should go in.

And to do that, I need to be still every now and then; I need to know & remember that I am not God.

And frankly; when I sit & think about it; I’m totally OK with NOT being God. :) 


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When life gives you.. well... the works!

When life gives you.. well... the works!
I think it's fair to say that no-one really anticipated what 2020 was going to hold. The 2020 rollercoaster has definitely had some big highs & lows! 

But, have you ever thought about whether 2020 happened TO you... or if it happened FOR you?

When we look for what happened TO ourselves; we tend to focus on the negatives, and the things that are out of our control. And frankly, that's not a great space to be in. 

When we look at things happening FOR us, the space is more positive and we look for the bigger picture and the lessons we can learn & grow from. What a better place to view life from!  

At the beginning of March (just before all the craziness of 2020 happened!!), I attended a workshop that changed the way I approached my work, family & life in general. There may have been a few tears (yes... I cried!) and lots of thinking about how I wanted to live my life & how I could use my blessings to bless others.

I felt like I was just floating along in life, doing whatever happened to cross my path and then moving on... No real direction; not a lot of purpose. I knew I had more to give; and this workshop lit a little spark inside me. Life was happening TO me. 

Fast forward 8 months (115 of those days in lockdown!)... I feel like I have not only jumped in a boat; I snatched up oars & a rudder along the way! Direction. Purpose. Joy. Right here!
I decided to look at how things were happening FOR me & what I could learn from this quite odd year!

Let me say: I would NOT be in the same place I am now if it hadn't been for the twists & turns of 2020. And I would not have changed my perspective, sought out God and living my purpose like I am now.

Remember that things occur FOR you, not to you and seek to learn what each trial or triumph is trying to teach you.

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Why everyone should be growing their greens

Why everyone should be growing their greens
Greens are so important to our health; they are rich in vitamins, minerals and fibre and also low in calories. Wins all round!! Thing is; most of us don’t consume nearly enough of them. 

But, why?
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