Why writing Part 2 is so HARD... My own 'baggage' revealed
So a week ago I wrote about Why stuff is called ‘baggage’ and when I finished that blog, I had a million & one ideas on a Part 2 on the practical elements of how to get rid of stuff; how to sort, tidy and store items, how to deem it keep-worthy or trash-worthy… and so on… and on… and on…It was going to be THE BEST and totally AMAZING!! 

I had so many ideas I, firstly, didn’t know where to start and secondly, I didn’t want to forget or miss out on ANYTHING (that would be doing you guys an injustice, right?).

So I wrote a grand total of… nothing.

Yep; nothing. Zero words got written, well actually it would have been typed, but the end result was that there’s still a blank Word document open on my computer with the heading “Part 2”.

And why?

Because I wanted it to be perfect; and nothing less. I wanted every reader (which by the way, at the moment would likely be less than 50!) to come away with it feeling like they could change the world by firstly decluttering the baggage in their home, so they were free of their (assumed) chains and soar high with the wind in their hair (I’m thinking Rose on the front of Titanic, minus the big boat).

And frankly, in my head, if I didn’t write that perfect blog that met EVERY reader’s needs and wants and icing-on-the-cake; then why bother?

So, truth be told, I haven’t started. (But I will when I have all the pieces & stars aligned! So I told myself...)

Maybe you are reading this and thinking “Ummm… WOW! How silly/arrogant/dreamy/deluded is that??!”

But can I ask; have you ever had a plan, a simple one that you have then thought about soooo much that you blew it out of portion and then actually never finished; well, if we’re being honest, never even started?

Maybe it was signing up to a gym (I like fitness ones, because pretty much everyone has thought of one in the not-so-distant past)… but then if you signed up, imagine the GUNS you’d have!! You’d have a six pack, be able to pull an aeroplane AND compete in the next Olympics! Just imagine!!

Or you’d feel obliged to go at least once a day, nay twice to get the best value AND you’ll need to get gym clothes, new sneakers and buy electrolyte drinks… which feels like a tonne of effort, and well frankly, we are so busy anyway… Let’s just not. 

Do you see how our thoughts just go off on their own little make-believe journey??

Sometimes (quite often actually!), we psych ourselves out of the relatively small, simple tasks because we are either afraid of the possible success or scared that if we don’t do 100%+ then we’ll fail and it will be worth nothing. There’s no in between, only absolutes.

If everyone who reads it LOVES it, and shares it and fly off into the sunset on wings free of clutter… YES!!!! I can celebrate with them and who doesn’t love a big party?? Then I’ll be doing tours & speaking to thousands of people and… and… and… (All from one blog post, right?! You laugh, but I’m sure your thoughts have shot for the stars with ‘what if’s?’ too!)

And if no one reads it or no one gets anything from it; well… what a waste of time & effort and obviously it wasn’t “just right” and I didn’t hit whatever mark I was looking for. (Negative Nancy is sitting right here…)

But what if I write the blog and less than half the people do absolutely ANYTHING associated with my advice; am I a total failure? No; I have actually helped people on their journey! I have “achieved” by giving to those who have appreciated my writing and it just might be the little nudge they needed.

And honestly, the last one is probably closest to the reality. And that is totally fine. J  

Also, in none of those scenarios does anything physically bad happen to me or the people around me. And for many of our goals that’s just it; we think of all these possibilities and get bogged down with “analysis paralysis” or are so scared of ANY outcome that we just fail to launch; period.

So here’s to rethinking our goals and what amounts as a ‘success’, and to remembering that our thoughts have a LOT of power in how we feel about our achievements (or perceived lack-there-of).

I will write Part 2; and it won't be perfect, and it's as unlikely I'll be asked to speak about it as it is that no one will read it, but it WILL be done. And I will have achieved my goal; and therefore will be successful.

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1 Comment

  1. Looks to me like you just wrote part 2(a?)
    I can sometimes be expert of analysis of paralysis myself...

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